So This Is What It's Like On The Other Side

As usual with the close of the school year and my impending BIG MOVE in a couple of months....my mom is freaking out.

She is calculating in her head how much this and that is going to cost. Moving to (insert major east coast city that i have not made a decision on yet), down payment on Apartment, turning on things like electricity, phone and my favorite...CABLE. Of course this move to New Haven is a venture all on my own but she knows that she is going to help me as much as she can until i get settled.

My plan as of right now is just to get out of "college town". I am done with this place and cannot see myself spending anymore time than necessary in my horrible small town with the local CVS. I'm still a little iffy on where i particulary want to live. It really depends on where i a) see myself going to grad school or b) where i see myself working.

If i was purely moving for work, New Haven is my ideal place. It's close enough to NYC that i can commute, it has some totally cheap apartments, and some pretty areas where there are parts and stuff (i'm simple). Unfortunately i don't really know anything about New Haven or Connecticut. I have also been doing some research (googling) and there are mixed reviews on the city. I've heard everything from charming town to pompus boresville.

But...because i am going to apply to grad school again, it also might be in my best interest to move where i want to attend school. Some days i want to move to New Haven (close to The New School), other days i'm contemplating Pittsburgh (University of Pittsburgh), Philadelphia (Temple University) and Boston ( Emerson College). I've been to Philadelphia before and ignoring the whole college thing, i LOVED that city.

I plan on moving by the end of August/beginning of September and by then i'll know where my new home is. Trust me the planning stages alone is a headache, and my mom is making it worse with her "concerns". She doesn't know if "we'll" have the money necessary for the move. She doesn't know if "we'll" be ready by then. She has suggested horrible idea(s) to make sure "we" have all the money "we" need by August including getting more money from loan 'friends' but also by dealing with some new pals named credit' and 'card'

Hell. To. The. No.

I sort of cut the conversation short after that. It's weird, she kept saying "we" as if this move was hers. Not just the physical move but how i would get there, what i would do when i get there....yadda, yadda, yadda. I had to remind her (gently) that i am 22, and that the way she would approach things ( borrow money) and the way i would approach things are totally different. I figure if i don't have all the money i need to have by August then i'll stay with my favorite aunt in Westchester. I'm already planning on working like a mad women this summer (even if it kills me) and i'm so cheap as it is, i don't think i'll have problems saving anything.

It's weird to get to a point where you realize you can listen to what your parents have to say but you to agree with them. I think sometimes my mom gives me advice based on how she would approach things. But i sort of want to try things out my own way, make my own decisions about things and see where everything will take me.

I felt all adulty on the phone. Like even though i have no idea what i am doing...about anything, I have the choice to say "oh that's not how i do things. Sorry".

I think i'm finally getting this adult thing down. You're still you, you just get to make all these decisions based on how you want to conduct your life.

Life Lesson Learned For Today.