Submitted For the Approval

I liked to thank YouTube for corrupting my weekend of studying with endless amount of nostalgia TV watching of one of my favorite Nick shows. Instead of studying chemistry I flew through about a million of these episodes. The Good(seasons 1-4), The Bad(corny acting) and The Ugly( I avoided watching the shows without the original cast). Nevertheless I was very unproductive lounging around in my Illinoise T-SHIRT and watching weird dressed kids from the 90's. It's the best Damn show I have ever watched, and I recommend watching them... just for nostalgia sakes anyway.

In a few days I will be heading home and of course there is last minute business to attend to; Psych quiz, work, and the dreaded Anna Karenin. I didn't realize how long it would take me to finish a few chapters. It's not even that the reading itself is hard, it's probably one of the most straightforward reads yet. But there is just so much of it, that it is taking me forever to finish. Should have done that this weekend but of course I had more important things to watch. Oh the woes of being a procrastinator.

Anywho. Gossip time.

Okay Gossip is probably really bad. I mean what good could come from talking about someone to other people. I stray from gossip. If someone is talking about a person at work, I get real quiet and don't say anything. I'm not trying to have that stuff come full circle and a "she said you said that I said" crap come knocking at my door. So for the most part I keep my mouth shut, but ears wide open.

For the most part being a quiet person doesn't leave much for people to talk about, other than I am quiet. I'd like to fly under the radar.

But that was not the case with Marie this weekend, who told me the horrible night with her boyfriend, and the office gossip that followed. Submitted for the approval of the midnight society I call this story:

THE TALE OF THE DRUNKEN BOYFRIEND:

In between Are You Afraid of the Dark I did manage to finish all of my chemistry homework. Mid problem Marie calls. For the most part our conversations on the phone are pleasant. I talk about Mike, work, boys. And she talks about School, work, Boyfriend. Every time she says his name, I know I am in for a long conversation about him.

They are still dating but the cracks in their relationship are beginning to grow. I mean wouldn't it...they work, live, go to the same school together. That much "us" time could make a person go insane. Anywho. Friday night they were at a party thrown by a co-worker. At first they were having a good time until he decided to mix drinks and got totally plastered.
She said he had never gotten that plastered before but she thought he could handle his alcohol. Not the case especially when Vodka is invoved. In his drunkenness he started embarrassing her in public and said all these mean things about her and their relationship. He was starting an argument with her,bit her on the arm,may have addressed how his family calls her chubby and him a chubby chaser, and then brought up the very sensitive issue of the dog she bought him. Marie loves animals (she's going to be a great vet) and bought him a dog a while back. I thought it was kind of weird and too early in a relationship to get him a dig, but I didn't tell her that. Well in the middle of his saying things about her in front of co-workers he then said "if she hadn't bought me that dog I would have gotten a better one."

WHAT?! DAMN

So after that, she left his drunk ass there, taking his car and headed home. He called the next morning, still at the person apartment, saying he had no idea what had happened last night. She informed him and then ignore him the rest of the day. He wrote some two page apology letter and said he didn't mean all those things he said. That he loves the dog, and their relationship and that he would never get so wasted again that he does something like that. She doesn't know what to do. She thinks she can't be mad at him because he wrote a "sweet" note, but she knows she has to address all the things he said about her.

Their relationship is so weird. Sort of out of convenience rather then general respect and like for another. I mean when i went to the waterpark with them he was always making jokes about her body. When she took off her top he said "please put it back on i am about to throw up. Seriously." I wish he would say something like that to me. I mean it is easy to sit here and say "he would not have done that to me in public"(the party incident and the bathing suit comment) but you never know what you would do in that situation. The hard "pretend to be from Brooklyn when I really grew up in Westchester" me is like

"He would not have punk'd me in public. I would have kicked his f-ing A- . I wish he would say something like that to me and then write some weak ass note trying to apologize. He better be lucky I left."

But the " I grew up in Westchester and can't fight my way out of a paper bag, sorry I bumped into you, eyes down , I didn't do it" me...Probably would have cried when I got home, ignored him, and then told him not to do it again. Not if we are going to remain in a relationship or even remain friends.

My outlook on relationships has changed since leaving my teens, Marriage doesn't seem that bad, not really looking for head over heels love but rather a fun lifetime companion, but what will always remain important is respect. You can't let that waver or you end up getting punk'd like Marie.

While she was pissed that he said he wasn't cool about the dog situation I would have been more pissed at the fact that he didn't have her back. That even in his stupid drunken rants he attacked the one person he should always be looking out for. If I have learned anything it's that you always protect the one you love. Especially emotionally, even if it isn't from yourself make sure you look out for them around other people. If i get lost i want to make sure he's hand is reached out to drag me back onto the path.

That's what my mom said she loved most about James, who she has been talking to almost every other night. Minus the whole cheating thing he always had our backs. He was always making sure we stayed on the right path, had a good time, and always knew that we were loved. She said that last week when she talked to him he said we were the "best kids he's ever had". He's pretty disconnected to his own two kids, and finds comfort in knowing he had a part in our growing up.

Time to go study(and watch Old school Nick). I can't wait for break. I need it. Oh...and I was watching the human stain yesterday for like 15 minutes and why did they cast Anthony Hopkins to play a bi-racial man? It was kind of weird watching a 60 year old, blue-eyed English man play a convincing bi-racial professor. Shame on you Hollywood. He turned a good piece of work into an awkward "why did they cast him" moment. Wentworth Miller was divine though. Oh Wentworth.